Ever Heard of Modesty? Woman Asks Sister to Cover Up in Her Home

Modesty seems to be a virtue that society lacks nowadays. Now, even in other people’s homes, some individuals think they’re free to do whatever they want and wear whatever they want — or not wear anything at all.

Some Redditors slammed this woman for ordering her younger sister to cover up when she walks around her house. Others are more understanding, and they believe it’s the right of the homeowner to make the rules.


The Original Poster, with the username u/GiantDirtRida, shared the dilemma on Reddit’s r/AmItheA–hole forum to find out if she was being foolishly fastidious. She wrote, “I 25f and my husband 27 have a home together with our 4-year-old. My sister Julia 20 lives with us because we live close to her college. She has her own room. Julia likes to leave the bedroom in a big shirt and underwear, or just a robe, or walk around the house in her sports bra, and booty shorts. I’ve mentioned to her nicely to change before, but she keeps doing it.”

Well, you can begin asking yourself what you would feel if, as the house owner and older sister, you were not being listened to, much less obeyed.

The situation heated up when OP was disrespected by her sister, as she related in the post, “The other night, she did it again, and I just simply said ‘cover up.’ She got angry and said she lived there too and accused me of being worried my husband would sexualize her. I told her that is definitely not the case, but there was a young child in this home, and it wasn’t appropriate. She needed to cover up before leaving her room.”

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It led to a bitter argument, with OP saying that her sister could run around naked in her room for all she cared, but she was firm in ordering that her sister must put on some clothes when she leaves her bedroom. Now, they no longer talk, and her sister has been avoiding her.

Who’s the jerk?

Here are some of the comments from the AITA community, some believing in homeowner’s rights while thinking that OP was just using her child as an excuse. They think that she’s more worried about her husband possibly getting tempted by her half-naked sister.

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From Visual_Humor_2838: “NAH. I think you’re within your rights as the homeowner to make this request — your house, your rules. But I agree with her that this doesn’t seem like a big deal. I think it’s weird that you’re worried about your child seeing their aunt in athletic wear. Are you going to keep your 4-yo away from pools where there could be women in two-piece bathing suits?”

From PlanktonOk4846: “That’s basically my conclusion as well. It’s weird to use the 4-year-old as an excuse, and OP is definitely sexualizing both her sister and her kid, but at the same time, it is primarily OP’s house.”

Meanwhile, those who still believe in modesty have lesser problems with rules, sex, and vanity, including responsible parenting. The message in 1 Peter 3:3-4 is clear in their minds and hearts: “Do not let your adorning be external — the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear — but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious.”

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