Redditor Asks “Am I the A-Hole?” After Friend Compares Divorce to Fiancé’s Death

Reddit is a wonderful site that gives people almost anything they want. People use it for simple discussions, for debates, for Q&A sessions, or just to share their opinions on certain things. Reddit can be used for anything really.

And a certain internet-favorite subreddit, Am I the A-hole, is a place where people post their own experiences and ask their fellow redditors their opinion on whether or not they are in the wrong in their posted circumstances. This often leads to debates in the comment section.

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Before July ended, a post in the subreddit stirred quite a bit of controversy when a redditor posted her problem in the community.

The post in question? AITA for telling my friend her divorce is not the same as my fiancé dying?

Statistics show that almost 50% of all marriages in the United States will end in divorce or separation. With that number, the US has the 6th highest divorce rate in the whole world. Now I don’t think I would ever be able to know the statistics of a person’s fiancé dying, or just dying in general, but I know that the two are not comparable. Statistically speaking, or otherwise.

The redditor starts the post by saying that she didn’t even want to get into comparing the two situations to begin with, but it looked like her friend just kept on testing her patience on the matter.

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She said that her friend kept making comments about how the divorce she’s going through is a death and that she’s grieving, our kind redditor said that those initial comments were fine with her.

“I initially wasn’t even equating it to my experience which was 3 years ago, because she’s going through it now and my experiences just aren’t even relevant,” the original poster (OP) said.

Her friend then kept on making comments about the divorce to the point of direct comparison, the OP said. Then the OP shared how when she and her friend were at a get-together, she was unwillingly dragged into the discussion of her friend’s divorce.

“…she again brings me into the discussion of her divorce by talking about how dealing with a divorce is like watching a relationship die from cancer, she gestures to me and says how she really understands now, we’re both single widows now, etc.”

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I can’t say for sure, but I think the friend may be a drama queen. This is my way of saying that I am siding with the comment section on this one. The comment during their get-together must have been the last straw for the poster, as she finally told her friend that, no, it wasn’t the same thing at all.

“Her husband didn’t die, he chose to leave, and they actually got to give marriage a shot,” the OP said. Heavy stuff, I know. Just imagine the silence that followed that statement. The OP then shared that her friend ended up crying about how she just “wanted to relate,” which leads the OP to ask, “am I the a-hole?”

The subreddit has been upvoted more than 6k times and has almost 450 comments on it, and it has been labeled as “Not the A-hole” officially. Fair.

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